The Hideous Poison of Anger

When asked what gets in the way of communication most often, anger comes up. Moreover, the anger is often related to a perception of a situation that may not even be accurate. That is why anger can be a poison that sucks you in.

Judgment and ridicule can set in. Your breathing starts to change and becomes shallow and significantly faster. This pattern lowers the oxygen level in the brain, which increases the irritability, impulsivity and leads to confusion and behaviours such as threatening, yelling or hitting.

Your brain then starts searching for other reasons to be angry to justify how it feels.
By looking for reasons that can make other people bad or wrong, the mind believes it offsets or even justifies its own actions, thinking and beliefs.

It then sets up vibrations of energy that attracts more of the same and other people of the same nature. Your brain can then literately filter out anything contrary to the raging thoughts that it now feels.

All communication has stopped at this point. The other person is now defensive and on guard against the onslaught of verbal and possibly physical attacks from the other person. They no longer see this person as rational. They give no credibility to anything the other person is saying. In most instances, they are in protection mode and not even paying attention to anything the angry person is saying.

If they get angry them self, it increases the rage and adds more fuel to the fire. They now look for past behaviours that can explain the actions of the angry person. If they remember any previous angry behaviour, it is easy to conclude that the other person always gets angry.

It is important for both parties to take a time out and reflect on what the original issue was and what they wanted to relay. Try to look at, just what are the important issues and what isn’t important. Having give and take in the communication can go far is resolving issues. They could also reflect on how and why the anger built up. What about this issue brought up the anger. How does this relate to any past issue. What are the feelings that I have around this.

In most cases, anger is a secondary emotion. It can mask fear, whether it is a fear of loss or needing control of a situation. Being clear on why you reacted and can go along way in resolving the intense feelings and help you to focus on the issue at hand. Then the communication can proceed towards understanding and resolution.

Breaking Through the Barriers

You've tried everything, you've listen to the experts, in frustration you shout out, "Why can't I seem to figure this out?" This can be stated for many areas in life, whether you are working on health, finances, business, improved communication skills or relationships. Quite often when we start out on the path to change one or more areas of our lives, we hit stumbling blocks and set backs.

We've made promises to ourselves that this time it will be different, this time you'll keep your promise to yourself or your new years resolution. You start thinking, willpower, yes, I just need more will power. Then you start to feel the strain as you try to force your way through.

Sadly, if it was just willpower that was needed then many more people would be successful. Willpower is more like an elastic band, the more you force and stretch it, the tighter it gets, the harder it is to hold until it eventually snaps back or breaks.

Most causes of failure and relapse have more to do with habits and belief systems, many of which you are not even consciously aware of. You see science has shown that we have 6 areas of the brain, 5 of which are in your subconscious. So if your conscious brain wants to change and the rest of you doesn't due to a outdatedbelief, 5/6th's is much stronger than 1/6th.

This is why, so many of the experts tell you that to succeed you need to work on getting rid of your barriers, your self-sabotage due to outdated beliefs and habits.

There are different ways that are recommended.

A few of them are:
• Counseling
  
• Therapy
  
• Emotional Freedom Techniques
  
• Positive Thinking
  
• Flip Switching
  
• Controlling your automatic negative thinking
  
• Repetition of desires
  
• Daily Focus on Goals
  
• Belief Analysis
  
• Coaches (in the areas that you are working on)
  
• Subliminal Messages
  
• Educating yourself - (In the areas you are working on, to give new information)
  
• Binary Beats

Often people will need more than one. You are changing a lifetime of negative and destructive beliefs. The imporant thing to know is that you need to change the RAS reticular activating system in your brain and create new and productive neuron connections. Your RAS system quickly points out to you, that which can help you the most in achieving your goals and desires. The benefits are that you attract the type and quality of life that you have been dreaming of. An example of how the RAS system works would be: You get a new car, suddenly you see them everywhere, yet you didn't notice them before. I have studied and tried many of the areas above. One of the areas that I found to be most helpful was the binary beats for the brain. I found them to be relaxing and helped me to focus on what I was accomplishing. When you are in a more calm state of mind, you open yourself up to more possibilities. You discover solutions that you didn't notice before. However, when you are stressed, you literately close down your thinking cells and shut yourself off from succeeding. Treat yourself to a better tomorrow. Breakthrough your barriers today and discover the possibilities within and before your. To learn more about the binary beats go to: Golden Falcon Recommends and read: Binary Beats for Breakthrough