Are you having trouble finding effective ways to overcome your fears and anxieties? As an author of a managing fear book, I found it difficult to find all of the answers in managing my anxieties. Although I am a layman and not a professional, I realized that the best way to overcome my fears and is to find those coping skills that effectively mange the fear and anxiety.
The first step is to take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your fears and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem. By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future.
It doesn’t stop there. The next step is to apply what you have learned. In my particular case, I made it a point that every time I would experience a fearful or anxiety-related situation, I would use the information I have learned. In every anxiety related situation I experienced, I began to learn what worked, what didn't work, and what I needed to improve on in managing my fears and anxieties.
If I still had trouble managing my fear, I would continue to do more research to learn of even more effective techniques in managing fear and anxiety. I would talk to more professionals, read more books, and ask more questions. I did this for fifteen years and gained a lot of valuable information on how to manage fear and anxiety.
Remember to focus on the strategies and techniques that actually reduce the fear and anxiety. All it takes is one effective technique to make a world of difference in managing your fears.
The main point of this article is that no matter how difficult it is to manage your fear, the answers are out there if you look hard enough. It might take some hard work and persistence, but it is possible to find those techniques that work for you.
Jumat, 07 Januari 2011
Kamis, 06 Januari 2011
Play for Your Life!
Copyright 2006 Cole's Poetic License
How do you play?
When do you play?
What does "play" mean to you?
Watch children play. They are quite serious about it. Notice how involved they are.
How much time do you give yourself to play every day?
Sometimes I have to remind myself to play.
Play is living in the NOW without thought of past or future. I think it's a worthy goal. Sometimes it's harder to make than money.
Thoughts are things, whirlygigs of energy. Imagine putting all your thoughts, fleeting or not, in a paper sack. Watch it dance.
Mine bounce onto a yellow legal pad where I can see them. They make wild movies in my dreams.
Sometimes they spread their fingers looking for a dance partner. That's how I know that my deepest desire is for play.
My first thought about that recognition: "Not much to admire about that ambition."
Second thought: "It's admirable. Most admirable." Playing is laughter and love and challenge and immediacy. It's NOW! When you catch the perfect wave and ride squealing into shore like a happy pig, you are totally present. When you catch a trout, run with your dog or cat, play a game of anything, you are happy . . .
unless you are doing those things out of FEAR or LUST.
Fear is constriction—crushing energy.
Lust has good energy, but implies lack. You want but can't seem to have.
It helps to know this so you can picture your fear as a huge boulder you can just roll down the hill out of your life, and your lust . . . you take it from here.
In the U.S. we think nothing of spending $50,000 on a heart attack but have a hard time spending $1,000 on play, unless it's gambling which is a different story. Is it really play?
Playing with others is love, laughter, challenge and immediacy. It concentrates the mind, integrates the body. It is well documented that laughter heals.
I recommend doubles ping pong. Once you have the table and paddles, it doesn't cost any money. I say doubles because that quadruples the crazy places that the ball goes. I guarantee you will laugh yourself healthy, if not wealthy and wise.
Finally, if a thought comes to your mind containing the word "should", delete it. Write it down and cross it out. Sweep it out of your head, go out and play, and then later, relax. What else really counts?
Food, clothing and shelter? You can spend some time acquiring these, I suppose, but don't make them more important than play!
How do you play?
When do you play?
What does "play" mean to you?
Watch children play. They are quite serious about it. Notice how involved they are.
How much time do you give yourself to play every day?
Sometimes I have to remind myself to play.
Play is living in the NOW without thought of past or future. I think it's a worthy goal. Sometimes it's harder to make than money.
Thoughts are things, whirlygigs of energy. Imagine putting all your thoughts, fleeting or not, in a paper sack. Watch it dance.
Mine bounce onto a yellow legal pad where I can see them. They make wild movies in my dreams.
Sometimes they spread their fingers looking for a dance partner. That's how I know that my deepest desire is for play.
My first thought about that recognition: "Not much to admire about that ambition."
Second thought: "It's admirable. Most admirable." Playing is laughter and love and challenge and immediacy. It's NOW! When you catch the perfect wave and ride squealing into shore like a happy pig, you are totally present. When you catch a trout, run with your dog or cat, play a game of anything, you are happy . . .
unless you are doing those things out of FEAR or LUST.
Fear is constriction—crushing energy.
Lust has good energy, but implies lack. You want but can't seem to have.
It helps to know this so you can picture your fear as a huge boulder you can just roll down the hill out of your life, and your lust . . . you take it from here.
In the U.S. we think nothing of spending $50,000 on a heart attack but have a hard time spending $1,000 on play, unless it's gambling which is a different story. Is it really play?
Playing with others is love, laughter, challenge and immediacy. It concentrates the mind, integrates the body. It is well documented that laughter heals.
I recommend doubles ping pong. Once you have the table and paddles, it doesn't cost any money. I say doubles because that quadruples the crazy places that the ball goes. I guarantee you will laugh yourself healthy, if not wealthy and wise.
Finally, if a thought comes to your mind containing the word "should", delete it. Write it down and cross it out. Sweep it out of your head, go out and play, and then later, relax. What else really counts?
Food, clothing and shelter? You can spend some time acquiring these, I suppose, but don't make them more important than play!
Rabu, 05 Januari 2011
The Power Of Laughter
Did you realise that laughter can heal?
The experience of laughing has been proven to be an extremely potent tool for self healing. If you have watched the DVD “The Secret” then you will have seen a very good example of this. A woman who was diagnosed with breast cancer laughed herself back to health. She watched funny shows and wouldn’t allow any stress into her life. At the end of three months the cancer had totally disappeared!
Why and how did this happen? Is it really possible to laugh your way back from sickness to health?
Well it has been observed by the medical profession that when you laugh, there are certain chemicals released in your body that relax you and allow your body to do what it does best – repair itself!
However, when you allow stress to take over and live your life from a very serious standpoint your body does not release these highly beneficial chemicals, your muscles tense and even natural bodily functions like digestion become harder for your body to regulate. As your body has to try that much harder to regulate your normal functions it takes its toil and aging can occur.
So if you try to see the funny side of things in life (and there always is one) you are actually helping yourself stay healthy and young. Using humour is not just great for your physical health; it can also keep you healthy emotionally and mentally. The best way top stay happy and humorous is to redirect your focus and thus change your perception of things.
If you constantly dwell on feelings of negativity you are not allowing yourself to see the humorous side of life and are robbing your body of much needed chemicals and a state of relaxation.
Here are some hints if you want to take advantage of the positive effects of humour.
1. Do things that you really enjoy and find funny.
2. Watch comedies that make you laugh.
3. Read a magazine or funny book.
4. Repeat the jokes you like to friends and family. Their laughter will have you laughing again.
5. Share funny stories that have happened to you.
7. Seek out the company of people you find funny.
8. Ask friends and family to tell you about their funny experiences.
You should to have a good belly laugh at least once a day. Why not laugh your way to a healthy youthful body?
The experience of laughing has been proven to be an extremely potent tool for self healing. If you have watched the DVD “The Secret” then you will have seen a very good example of this. A woman who was diagnosed with breast cancer laughed herself back to health. She watched funny shows and wouldn’t allow any stress into her life. At the end of three months the cancer had totally disappeared!
Why and how did this happen? Is it really possible to laugh your way back from sickness to health?
Well it has been observed by the medical profession that when you laugh, there are certain chemicals released in your body that relax you and allow your body to do what it does best – repair itself!
However, when you allow stress to take over and live your life from a very serious standpoint your body does not release these highly beneficial chemicals, your muscles tense and even natural bodily functions like digestion become harder for your body to regulate. As your body has to try that much harder to regulate your normal functions it takes its toil and aging can occur.
So if you try to see the funny side of things in life (and there always is one) you are actually helping yourself stay healthy and young. Using humour is not just great for your physical health; it can also keep you healthy emotionally and mentally. The best way top stay happy and humorous is to redirect your focus and thus change your perception of things.
If you constantly dwell on feelings of negativity you are not allowing yourself to see the humorous side of life and are robbing your body of much needed chemicals and a state of relaxation.
Here are some hints if you want to take advantage of the positive effects of humour.
1. Do things that you really enjoy and find funny.
2. Watch comedies that make you laugh.
3. Read a magazine or funny book.
4. Repeat the jokes you like to friends and family. Their laughter will have you laughing again.
5. Share funny stories that have happened to you.
7. Seek out the company of people you find funny.
8. Ask friends and family to tell you about their funny experiences.
You should to have a good belly laugh at least once a day. Why not laugh your way to a healthy youthful body?
Selasa, 04 Januari 2011
What To Do When Your Fears And Worries Overwhelm You
What do you do when your worries and anxieties overwhelm you? Here is a brief list of techniques that a person can use to help manage their worries and anxieties.
Sometimes what we fear may happen can be overly exaggerated. A lot of times, our worrying can make the problem even worse. Remember that all the worrying in the world will not change anything. All you can do is to do your best each day, hope for the best, and when something does happen, take it in stride.
A good way to manage your worry is to challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When encountering thoughts that make your fearful or anxious, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself questions that will maintain objectivity and common sense.
I read that most of what we worry about never comes true. Instead of worrying about something that probably won’t happen, concentrate on what you are able to do. Everything else you can leave in the hands of God.
When overwhelmed with worry, a person may encounter a lot of scary thoughts coming at them all at once. Instead of getting upset, remember that these thoughts are exaggerated and are not based on reality. From my interviews with various professionals, I’ve learned that usually it is the fear behind the thoughts that gets us worked up. Ignore the fear behind these thoughts, and your worry should decrease.
When managing your fears and anxieties do not try to tackle everything at once. The best solution is to break your fears or problems into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.
As a Layman, I realize it can be difficult to get rid of our fears and worries even when they overwhelm us. If nothing else works, take a deep breath and try to find something to do for a few minutes to get their mind off of the problem. Doing something you enjoy can give you a fresh perspective on things.
Sometimes what we fear may happen can be overly exaggerated. A lot of times, our worrying can make the problem even worse. Remember that all the worrying in the world will not change anything. All you can do is to do your best each day, hope for the best, and when something does happen, take it in stride.
A good way to manage your worry is to challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When encountering thoughts that make your fearful or anxious, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself questions that will maintain objectivity and common sense.
I read that most of what we worry about never comes true. Instead of worrying about something that probably won’t happen, concentrate on what you are able to do. Everything else you can leave in the hands of God.
When overwhelmed with worry, a person may encounter a lot of scary thoughts coming at them all at once. Instead of getting upset, remember that these thoughts are exaggerated and are not based on reality. From my interviews with various professionals, I’ve learned that usually it is the fear behind the thoughts that gets us worked up. Ignore the fear behind these thoughts, and your worry should decrease.
When managing your fears and anxieties do not try to tackle everything at once. The best solution is to break your fears or problems into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.
As a Layman, I realize it can be difficult to get rid of our fears and worries even when they overwhelm us. If nothing else works, take a deep breath and try to find something to do for a few minutes to get their mind off of the problem. Doing something you enjoy can give you a fresh perspective on things.
Senin, 03 Januari 2011
Self-Improvement - Something For Everyone (Part 2)
Just about everyone in the world can think of something they want to improve about themselves. With some people they may want to achieve more than one improvement. The best way to approach this is to make a list of what is most important to you. It could be something as simple as reading a book to help you improve the work you do or making time for yourself to indulge in reading of your favorite pastime. Once you commit your deepest desires about improving yourself to paper, it seems more attainable.
Start off with a plan. This means setting a goal for yourself. If you wish, you can even set a time limit, such as "I want to be able to walk five km. a day at the end of the summer." When you start out knowing what it is you want to achieve, then it makes it easier on you to get what you want. There is no point in trying to do everything at once. If you take small steps and reach stages in your self-improvement process in increments, it makes the end result more worthwhile. If you could do it all at once, then it would be too easy and you won't have the same sense of accomplishment as if it were something that you had to work really hard to get.
In some cases, the type of improvement that you want will necessitate spending money. If you want to become more confident at public speaking, for example, you may have to take classes in this. If you admire a friend of yours that can sew or paint really well and you would like to do this as well, there are many opportunities to take classes at night or on weekends. One thing that you do have to keep in mind is the amount of talent that you have for such a project. It is also something in which you have an interest. If you don't like it, then you won't master it.
Of course, self-improvement always involves health, whether it is health of the body or health of the mind. Once you achieve what you set out to do, it improves all of you - your body, mind and soul.
Start off with a plan. This means setting a goal for yourself. If you wish, you can even set a time limit, such as "I want to be able to walk five km. a day at the end of the summer." When you start out knowing what it is you want to achieve, then it makes it easier on you to get what you want. There is no point in trying to do everything at once. If you take small steps and reach stages in your self-improvement process in increments, it makes the end result more worthwhile. If you could do it all at once, then it would be too easy and you won't have the same sense of accomplishment as if it were something that you had to work really hard to get.
In some cases, the type of improvement that you want will necessitate spending money. If you want to become more confident at public speaking, for example, you may have to take classes in this. If you admire a friend of yours that can sew or paint really well and you would like to do this as well, there are many opportunities to take classes at night or on weekends. One thing that you do have to keep in mind is the amount of talent that you have for such a project. It is also something in which you have an interest. If you don't like it, then you won't master it.
Of course, self-improvement always involves health, whether it is health of the body or health of the mind. Once you achieve what you set out to do, it improves all of you - your body, mind and soul.
Minggu, 02 Januari 2011
How To Choose A Therapist
Choosing a therapist is a rite of passage for many. It's a declaration of needing the support of a professional for a problem one cannot resolve through resources at hand. In simpler terms, it means paying someone for their expertise to solve a problem you have. And therapists are available to meet their client's needs in many areas of life. The most common type of therapist is a psychotherapist, some with an advanced degree and licensed in their state to assist individuals in improving their mental and emotional health. These therapists may have specialties in grief therapy, family therapy, group therapy, or couples therapy - but the principles and training are the same, and the end result is to give people more control through having a better understanding of their life and circumstances. These type of therapists help with acute problems such as marriage issue or the death of a loved one, but also meet with people over a longer term period to assist with issues like anxiety, depression, self-esteem, or difficult relationship circumstances.
A profession that has become popular over the last decade is that of the massage therapist. As people have become more attuned to self-care and taking care of their body, massage therapists have grown in demand. This is a demanding job physically but one that nurtures many massage therapists spiritually and relationally. And as long as the societal demand for an improved quality of life continues, massage therapists will play a part in this. As will physical and occupational therapists. Also known as PTs and OTs, these professionals have an interest in restoring physical health to individuals who have undergone surgery or suffered an accident.
Al of these therapists play a significant role in improving the quality of life of others and derive great value from helping, whether this is through mental, emotional, or physical means.
A profession that has become popular over the last decade is that of the massage therapist. As people have become more attuned to self-care and taking care of their body, massage therapists have grown in demand. This is a demanding job physically but one that nurtures many massage therapists spiritually and relationally. And as long as the societal demand for an improved quality of life continues, massage therapists will play a part in this. As will physical and occupational therapists. Also known as PTs and OTs, these professionals have an interest in restoring physical health to individuals who have undergone surgery or suffered an accident.
Al of these therapists play a significant role in improving the quality of life of others and derive great value from helping, whether this is through mental, emotional, or physical means.
Sabtu, 01 Januari 2011
Personal Development Is Where Success Starts - Ask Anyone Who Has It!
Are you living the life you envisioned for yourself when you were a kid? When did you give up on your dreams and decide that you would settle for an average lifestyle? There is a better way out there.
If you ask around, many people will tell you that they're willing to pay the price, that they will do whatever it takes to live a lifestyle of absolute freedom and abundance. Well then why is less than 3% of the poplulation wealthy? It is because there's a huge gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it. That's where many people drop off. For whatever reason, whether they don't believe they could really achieve wealth, or whether they were told that money doesn't grow on trees, or whether they just don't think they deserve a ridiculous lifestyle, people hold onto beliefs that are detrimental to their growth and that hold them back an entire lifetime.
What if i told you about a personal development program that is truly worth it's weight in gold. This course will allow you to shed whatever limiting beliefs you may or may not know you have that have been keeping you back from your full potential. If you're not completely satisfied with the life you've created for yourself, why are you going to live the rest of your life just settling and going through the day-to-day motions?
If you desire different results, you require to start thinking and doing things differently. Why do you believe it is that some people get whatever their heart desires while others choose to struggle? The secrets are in this personal development course and these secrets can truly set you free.
www.millionairemindsets.com
If you ask around, many people will tell you that they're willing to pay the price, that they will do whatever it takes to live a lifestyle of absolute freedom and abundance. Well then why is less than 3% of the poplulation wealthy? It is because there's a huge gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it. That's where many people drop off. For whatever reason, whether they don't believe they could really achieve wealth, or whether they were told that money doesn't grow on trees, or whether they just don't think they deserve a ridiculous lifestyle, people hold onto beliefs that are detrimental to their growth and that hold them back an entire lifetime.
What if i told you about a personal development program that is truly worth it's weight in gold. This course will allow you to shed whatever limiting beliefs you may or may not know you have that have been keeping you back from your full potential. If you're not completely satisfied with the life you've created for yourself, why are you going to live the rest of your life just settling and going through the day-to-day motions?
If you desire different results, you require to start thinking and doing things differently. Why do you believe it is that some people get whatever their heart desires while others choose to struggle? The secrets are in this personal development course and these secrets can truly set you free.
www.millionairemindsets.com
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